When Your Wife or Husband Takes All Your Salary And You Do Not Have Any Money For Yourself Anymore

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This may be a common problem between spouses, especially if one spouse takes all the money needed to finance the home or family needs and invests it in some things that might not be beneficial.

Some spouses or couples have different views on how to invest their money. Some think that a comfortable mansion can make their children happy or make their family happy. Others think that education and travel is something that their family should enjoy and prepare for. Others invest in properties like land for their source of food and perhaps income for the family.

If you have a plan for your children, explain to your spouse why you are investing your money in such an investment. Explain to them why it is necessary for you to make that investment. This communication between you and your spouse can help you see the pros and cons of that investment. Once you have seen that there are more pros than cons to the investment that you are intending to embark on, then make the decision together. 

Some spouses who earn most of the money may think that their counterparts may not be doing their share of the load especially when they are at home, safe and sound with the family, while the working spouse, works hard outdoors. They may feel tired and perhaps mentally tired and stressed as well. Therefore, the other spouse should do his or her share of trying to make things feel better for the stressed spouse. Working from home may not be that stressful, unlike industrial work. Therefore, the stay at homes spouse should try to do her part in taking care of his or her spouse as well. He or she should make good meals, which the working spouse might request sometimes. They should also try to be loving to the spouse by helping them out with their problems if they have any. A listening ear would help and some relaxing massage could also help. 

The stay at home spouse should make sure that the children are taken care of. Prepare meals that they need to eat, tidy up the house, do the chores needed to do for them to have a happy home. Sometimes if they have more time in their hands, teach young children at home. There are several online resources, which they can use for basic education. Online teaching is now available for various levels of education and children or teens can become educated with the help and guidance of their parents. 

The home budget can be handled by both or one spouse. If one spouse is best in handling finances, and making good investments, then perhaps, you can make this spouse handle the budget. Otherwise, making the other spouse who is better at making investments and decisions take care of the budget. If the other spouse chooses to work to earn his or her own money and not be financially dependent on the other spouse, then you may support this decision, or talk to them if you do not agree. Tell him or her why you do not agree and let them know the pros and cons or possible result of the decision. If there will be no one to take care of the children, then, let them know and explain that to them. Perhaps you can resort to the grandparents', to take care of the children if they are at home, if possible. And then, simply share with them a few treats that you probably were able to get from your earnings. This will make them happy or delighted once you get the chance to do this. It may not be in the form of millions of dollars or whatever the currency is, but the treats will definitely be appreciated. 

Be fair in the relationship. Do not try to steal from your spouse. Explain to them why you need the money that you are getting from him or her. Tell them where you are putting your money in and why you need to do this. If it is for the future of your children and for the benefit of the entire family, then it is important that you explain to them why you need to make these investments. Try to reach a decision that will be beneficial for both of you, so that you will be both happy. Sometimes you may not feel happy because the decision of your spouse prevailed, there might have been some other decisions that in the past you have made for both of you. This is why they call relationships a two-way street, you should take care of each other, share what you have with each other, and give each other a chance to make the decisions sometimes, especially when it comes to their well-being. Do give them advice about being healthy and mentally well so that they can keep going and be always healthy.

The welfare of children or young ones should be the priority. Your little ones are your inspiration to keep going in this world. So, try to keep them happy and make beautiful memories with them if possible. If you are overseas, working and cannot reach them, try to send them letters, messages, call each other with today's modern communication, and perhaps some money that they need. If you have some or gifts that they may like to have, they will also be greatly appreciative of these as well. If not, once you meet each other, give them the best time that you can give them once you are together. This will definitely be appreciated by them. Try to make their simple wishes come true, if possible. If you are not able to, explain the reason why you cannot do that. Tell them about the financial problem that you may be having at the moment, or the current status of your life why you cannot afford to do so. And once you are able to make these happen, then you can buy the thing that they wanted to have or treat them to the meal that they wanted to enjoy. 

Have a wonderful day and great meals.