Children have to be looked after even if they are already young adults because they still need guidance and help with things that they may feel they cannot cope with alone. Like any other individual, they may still need help that, we sometimes feel, they don't.
Helping them pay bills that they have to pay in school, or those related to it, maybe difficult to fulfil but there may be ways to make ends meet. You should not let your child spend beyond their means to be not stuck in debt. Make them realise that there is a need to stick to the budget that you have given them. Otherwise, they have to try to make their strategy on how to pay off the debt that they owe you or someone else. If they do make mistakes, that is part of learning. They will eventually realise their mistakes and perhaps learn from them. They will eventually then remember these mistakes and not make them in the future again.
If a child is really interested in something, they will likely do it and pursue it. If they are not, they will likely quit it. If they are determined to do a plan that they want to fulfil in their life, they will likely want to do it even with the obstacles and complexities that may involve it. They will eventually get to where they want to be, try to achieve what they want and make their dreams come true. But let them realise that sometimes, things do not work out the way they want to always. These are some things that they have to face and realise, sometimes on their own. These might not always make them happy but they will eventually realise that sometimes experiences, pleasant or unpleasant are part of life.
Encouraging your child to pursue their goals is alright, however, let them also know of the possible obstacles that they will face in trying to pursue their goals or dreams. Discouraging them to not do something may be alright especially if they are putting themselves in danger or possible danger. Make sure that they get the rest that they need. Even if they feel that they need to keep working to make the millions they want, they still need to make sure that they are taking good care of themselves. So that they can keep fulfilling their mission in life or reaching their goals.
Check on your young lads and lass from time to time and get to know what they are up to. They still need your guidance no matter what you are doing. They are young and maybe foolish at times but as older people and as their parents you are responsible for their well-being, even if they are already grown-ups, if they need help, they should be able to get it, even if it's just a simple hello, advice or conversation with you.
Let them know that you love them and are trying your best to help them reach their dreams. However, love for young people may be different for various personalities. There are children who have their own dreams that they want to fulfil and do, but tell them or remind them to be grateful for the blessings that they are getting each day. Let them express their gratitude in ways that they can do. If not, perhaps they know other things that you may not know that they can help you out with and make your family life better and happy.
Love your children no matter what they are like. They likely grew up the way they are because you brought them up this way and the world we live in brought them up this way. So, no matter what they look like, how they are, how hard-headed they may be, how weak they may be, or how temperamental they may be. They too, like you, may still be learning about things that you are not knowledgable of. they too, maybe are wondering why they feel sick, frustrated, lonely, different or unable to do certain things that others could. Eventually, they will have to live with themselves and learn to live with the world that may not be easy to live in at times.
If your lad or lass has committed a crime, then it is time for a talk with them. A serious talk that you should ask questions about and something that you should investigate on why he or she got into that mess. Peer pressure could have been one reason, but make sure that when your lad or lass are already adults, they still need help with certain information that they are not familiar with like laws they may be violating or policies they may be not adhering to. If they did violate something, tell them about the possible consequences of their actions. And once this is made known to them, discourage them from doing these again or ever.
Trying to instil discipline is important but let them learn how to manage their own time, especially if they are trying to learn a craft that is beneficial for them and your entire family. However, always try to keep in touch with them, especially if they are away from home. They still need guidance even if they are already adults because some needs to be reminded of what they need to do and what they have to do. They have to be given the help they need if they need it because sometimes help from others may not always come or be possible.
Even if they have friends that they can rely on, some young adults still need their parents' help with things that they cannot seem to do on their own. Some parents have to take care of their children's children or their grandchildren because household help can be expensive, costly and unavailable. And sometimes, it may be difficult to find people who will want to be household helpers in some places and may not always be effective in doing household jobs because they are not trained to do those and are not interested in doing these kinds of work.
Being physically present where your lad or lass is also important at certain times because they may need help that other people cannot give them. You need to be there when they need you or you have to welcome them home when they want to come home. If you can't be with them, help them with something that they are struggling with. Then, this may ease their burdens. They most probably would take more from you than you they can give, but that is how being a parent is like. Difficult at times, challenging and may come with tears.
Have a lovely day or night.